I am an introvert. I married an extrovert.
I was told at our premarital counselling that this may be a difficult obstacle to overcome. A book that specialized in premarital counselling even went to far as to say that we should seriously consider getting married at all.
I have since had extroverted kids....I'll have to keep you posted on how everybody turns out, but as of right now, I KNOW that Gabriel is...Elise and Amelia are, usually, but they have a sensory switch, where, sometimes they hit a "full" button, and need to get away., but then they will be fine to rejoin after 5 minutes. Charlotte, I believe will be a full-fledged introvert. She LOVES alone time. She basks in the time when all her siblings are down for the night...and is my first and only who seeks out her own room to play...no playmate required.
I got to watch my niece last weekend, who hit her full quotient pretty early into the party and had NO desire to return. It got me to thinking what really makes an introvert/extrovert.
This is what Wikipedia has to say: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Extraversion_and_introversion
...and while I looked at more than just this site, I was amused by the part where is said that introverts were not necessarily "loners", but that their thoughts and imagination were stimulating enough to preclude the need for outside entertainment...I'll have to go with that!
Ethan NEEDS time with others, to the point where he actually likes to go out to a restaraunt or mall or whatever just for people time..it acts on him like a happy drug. I have to drag myself to parties, I can hang with the big kids...but eventually, I have to tap out and sit in the bathroom for a few minutes...if I could stay home the whole time, I'd probably be okay as long as someone could get books and craft supplies to me...don't get me wrong, I like spending time with people, and really like hanging out with a friend and their kids, but much more than that, and it becomes work. After reading up, I am beginning to wonder if it is actually that my brain is too full.
And for those that say being an introvert is based in a lack of social experience...go watch my kids...I can safely say that it is not a "nurture" thing and more a "nature" thing!
What do you think you are? Do you think it is a Nature/Nurture area? I am curious what YOU think?